My parents don’t love me, and it’s spring. There are other things to worry about as well. The realization that they don’t love you comes as a shock, and then a thud. However, if you look past that, you might realize something even more shocking; how are they still together when half of the married couples divorce? In all likelihood, they probably don’t just not like you, they don’t like their life partner, or themselves.
There are an incredible number of reasons why they might be unhappy, and none of these will be any consolation to you. What about your unrequited love for them? Let’s explore these in some detail. Have you ever been in school and wished to just escape, yet there was no escape insight? That’s their life. They made mistakes that led to lifelong commitments, and wish they could escape. In reality, adults don’t have all the answers. They are held back by their mistakes, and still hold on to childish dreams.
Dreams of still being with their first love, or not saying something wrong on a first date. There is often a lingering regret that, if they had tried harder in life, they would have found happiness. These small things cause bitterness to fester in their hearts. Meanwhile, the fact that they are adults makes them isolated and unable to seek help. To put it simply, adults can be losers haunted by their mistakes. So, when the intrusive thoughts say “My parents don’t love me and it’s spring,” you should focus on spring.
The sun kissing your skin is a reward all its own.
Alternatively, if your intrusive thoughts are telling you, “I have no friends, and it’s summer,” the correct thing to do is to get out of there and live your own life. The troubles of the world will always be there, don’t worry about your parents’ broken household. Spreading your wings, and being able to live and love will make you likeable. The more you reach out into this fantastical life of yours, the more it will ease your suffering. If you’ve never been told this before: you have your own life to live.
Once you have a job, and someone to hold, summer becomes a special thing. Depression and anxiety will simply disappear. The worst thing you can do is to stay locked up in your room. The more independent you are, the stronger your relationship with your family can be, paradoxically. The fact that you are a different person from your parents should be looked at fondly.
People of all sorts frequently have nothing in common; why would it be different with parents? If you want to be virtuous, you should seek out warmth; not just of the summer sun, but also the warmth of affection. When faced with both pointless suffering and the warmth of love, we must ask ourselves a question.
What would make me happy?
I remember going to the mall, spending hours people watching and aimlessly window shopping. Once I got tired, I would walk to a local coffee shop that I frequented, to fill the time. When summer hit and the river was warm enough to swim in, I would spend the remaining hours there. Filling the day with recreation made me feel like the world wasn’t so gloom and doom.
If you are held back by fear of your peers, then you are a wise kid. Adolescents are the most dangerous and reckless demographic. When I was a kid, I too was terrified of my peers. The best answer is to stay away from them. They haven’t lived long enough for you to profile them. You should seek comfort where it is safe and seek it often.
The more you fulfill yourself, the better life will be for you and your parents. However, as you grow, don’t let the shifting tide pull you away from your parents. Regrettably, I allowed this to happen to my whole family. It was as if five days in the sun turned into five years of a daydream, and I enjoyed embracing the tide. Then, BAM, they were gone, and I didn’t even know when they left. What was once an awful child-parent relationship, vanished. Sometimes I think that, even though being relatives didn’t work out, maybe I could be a distant friend to those people who shared my last name.
